Freaking sexy mirage


Let's have a show of hands... who wants something to be different?

Maybe it's a new job. Maybe it's to be treated better in our current job. Maybe it's to finish this project we've been labouring through for the past six months.

Or maybe it's something more personal. A new car. A beer. For that pimple on the end of your nose to disappear before your first night out with the girls in months.

I've had an incredible couple of weeks since the community launched. One of my major concerns beforehand was ensuring we only attracted members who had already bought into an outcome-focused approach to L&D. After having chatted with several members, I've realised my fears were unfounded. Not only does each one "get it", but they also bring a fascinating mix of experience and perspective to the party.

But yet, even with all the positivity, I still catch myself "nexting". That annoying habit of wanting something to be different.

After having the idea, I wanted validation. Once we'd received validation, I wanted to launch. Once we'd launched, I wanted members. Once we had members, I wanted community conversations. Now the conversations are flowing, I want to run our practical workshops...

Without consciously realising it, I'm living in a permanent state of impatience.

But then, I catch myself and realise you can’t yank on a flower to make it grow faster. If you can be patient enough, things will happen as they should versus how you think they should.

So, where does this come from?

Taken from an excellent article I discovered a few years ago:

"Patience is a sign of respect for the present moment.
Why?
Because when you are patient you actually take yourself out of living in the future.
When we're being impatient, we usually want something to happen that is farther down the line to happen right now. We think it’s going to be this great thing and that will save us from whatever is going on now.
You’ve probably heard me say it before, but that is a “row-boat-mentality” type of thinking. You are constantly rowing to this island where it all turns out (the future) and never get there because it’s a dream land. It doesn’t exist.
It’s one freaking sexy mirage though.

So, whatever you're longing for, take a moment and recognise this unhelpful dynamic.

Just sit tight, keep an open mind and thank your lucky stars you're right where you need to be.

Yours,
- Ant

Ant Pugh

Workflow Designer | Business Operations | Performance Consultant | Learning & Development Professional

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